Comments on: Pregnant ladies: Avoid the message boards!

By: Blogs to Stalk | Friday Favorites

Blogs to Stalk | Friday Favorites — Fri, 26 Feb 2016 13:02:44 +0000

[…] Helene’s webinar, and I’m pretty sure we were meant to be friends. This post about the crazy ladies on the pregnancy message boards sold me. But really, have you stepped your virtual foot into one of those What To Expect […]

By: Lisa

Lisa — Mon, 04 Jan 2016 04:01:00 +0000

Awww I’m glad you found me, too, Kelly! Definitely stay off the pregnancy boards as you get closer to your due date because the things people say will drive you NUTS. Everyone wants to induce at like 34 weeks! (And people keep confusing castrol oil with castor oil and it’s all just disaster.)

By: Kelly @ Primarily Inspired

Kelly @ Primarily Inspired — Sun, 03 Jan 2016 03:57:00 +0000

Amen! I’m so glad I found your blog through The Peony Project! Knowing what I know now, being in my 3rd trimester, I almost laugh at my 1st trimester self. I wish I had found this post sooner in my pregnancy because you hit everything right on the nail. I’ve since stayed away from those pregnancy boards because it just makes you stress out more and your right about the judgement from other women. Such a great read 🙂

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 04 Nov 2014 22:05:00 +0000

I’ve heard some can be better than others, so maybe I just found the wrong one, but I’m staying away from all parenting message boards now too, and am happy with the decision 🙂

By: Katherine Lacabe

Katherine Lacabe — Wed, 29 Oct 2014 03:19:00 +0000

Wow. I can see how all that would be pretty scary to read while pregnant. I also see how it can be a good outlet for people. Thanks for the heads up!

By: Kaitlyn

Kaitlyn — Mon, 27 Oct 2014 22:38:00 +0000

Uff, yes, that is a very good point! There is a huge difference between being able to do something abut a situation, or at least accompany someone as they go through it, versus sort of watching a train wreck from the distance.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 26 Oct 2014 16:36:00 +0000

I would never in a million years think of you as mean, Kait 🙂 My anxiety has DEFINITELY increased since Clara was born. But, it’s because of my own world view and not necessarily because of the world view of strangers on message boards… if that makes sense! I definitely know/realize that horrible things happen and there’s nothing (usually) we can do to protect ourselves from them. But, I also don’t think it’s necessarily useful for pregnant (or any) women to be on boards filled with bad pregnancy news from strangers, because extra anxiety isn’t good for anyone. This is also why I avoid the evening news… It’s not that I avoid all negativity, but I try to focus on the happenings that actually affect myself and my loved ones, or our world as a whole. I guess I think there’s a difference between seeking out truth, (potentially sensitive) stories and facts vs spending a lot of time in an online and almost completely anonymous community where people post heartbreaking news almost hourly, and without any background.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 26 Oct 2014 16:13:00 +0000

Ohhhh I wish I had known about that baby board! I’ll pass it along to friends who are knocked up, thanks for sharing! I’m sorry you aren’t having a good experience, it is all worth it – I promise!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 26 Oct 2014 16:12:00 +0000

YES. Stick to friends and bloggers and people whose opinions you value!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 26 Oct 2014 16:11:00 +0000

Hahaha I agree with you! I really don’t know why it seems like most of the women I know in real life are so normal, but the message boards attract a different level of crazy!