Comments on: Love is a Choice

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 23 Feb 2016 20:50:00 +0000

I’m glad you were able to relate, Emily! And I hear ya, there are so many times during the day when I just want 5 minutes to do things for myself, even if it’s just answer a text message! I really appreciate your kind words, it’s so easy to be hard on ourselves as moms and encouragement is always so welcome 🙂

By: Emily Burgess

Emily Burgess — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 15:07:00 +0000

Thank you! I sooo needed this today–this is exactly how I feel about my son. I love him and the bond I have with him, but I struggle everyday with wanting to be selfish and just do what I want for a minute (eat a *hot* dinner instead of a cold one after helping him, spending time in the morning with devotion instead of laundry and housework I can’t do at night). I have never been able to put into words my feelings, but you did! Thanks for being a constant support!! You are a great mommy and Baby Beni will be lucky to have you!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 22:10:00 +0000

I often wonder if I felt especially disconnected to Clara because she was a c-section baby who had to go straight to the NICU, so I didn’t actually see her until hours after she was born, and that led me to have feelings of ‘Oh, this is my baby? Weird.’ It was a complete disconnect for a while! I’m not sure how common it is, but other moms have told me they feel similarly so I think it’s more ‘normal’ than I felt it was at the time – I just don’t think moms like to admit it isn’t always love-at-first-sight.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 22:08:00 +0000

Thanks so much, Natasha! I love those days where I’m like ‘gosh, I am AMAZING at being a mom!’ but then other days I think ‘I really may not survive this…’ It’s such a roller coaster!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 22:08:00 +0000

Good point, Katie! That’s a whole different topic… balancing ALL roles along with motherhood is a challenge!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 22:07:00 +0000

Isn’t it crazy to THINK you’re going to feel this immense love and then it be kind of “oh, this is my baby? weird.” I’m embarrassed to admit that post-surgery (c-section, that is) I asked for a strawberry smoothie and a coke before I asked when I could see Clara. I blame the drugs, because then I feel less guilty.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 22:07:00 +0000

Oh you’re in for SO MANY awesome and overwhelming experiences! Motherhood is a great adventure to be on 🙂 CONGRATS!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 22:06:00 +0000

Thanks, Amberly!!! <3

By: Amberly-A Prioritized Marriage

Amberly-A Prioritized Marriage — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 17:52:00 +0000

I love this so much!!!!

By: erinhzauner

erinhzauner — Tue, 16 Feb 2016 16:27:00 +0000

this is so spot on. I had the exact same experience as you with the “no insta love” after Amelia was born. not in the overwhelming sense at least. and I find your words to be truer and truer as time goes on.