My favorite day of last week. (My standards are low, people.)

I want to tell you about my favorite day of last week.

It was Wednesday – the most magical day. I scheduled a doctor appointment so Tim stayed home from work to help with Isabelle, and Clara was at preschool. This means I went to the doctor appointment by myself! I spoke in full sentences!

My Favorite Day

While I was there, my ND (Naturopathic Doctor) mentioned I should get my blood drawn. I was going to make another appointment to get that done, and then realized I didn’t have any kids with me! I could do anything! I was unstoppable! So I sat in the waiting room for 10 minutes and felt so blissfully relaxed. Then I had to do a breath test which required me drinking a yucky citrus drink and waiting 15 minutes… and guys… this was the best news. I was able to sit in a waiting room IN SILENCE, and read for an extra 15 glorious minutes.

Then I picked up Clara from preschool and we went to Target by ourselves! We never, ever run errands together so Clara thought she was in heaven and the whole outing was so easy with only one kid! (I really need to get out of the house more.) I truly felt like I was living my best life.

Is my bar too low?! Yes, yes it is. Clearly.

But it really was the best day. And then that night we threw a baby ‘sprinkle’ for a friend and I felt like myself again. Like my pre-baby self. Not spending all day with my kids meant I had energy to socialize. I laughed a lot, I felt like my brain was actually working, I felt like me.

This whole day/night made me realize that being with my kids full time may not be the best decision for me anymore. It’s something Tim and I have been talking about for a few weeks, but basically I feel like I’m no longer myself. I think all moms can probably relate to this to a certain extent. I used to be fun, I used to be witty, I used to have energy to spare… and being a SAHM has left me feeling depleted and sad and unmotivated.

So, we’ll see what we decide to do going forward! It’s always a balancing act, and I’ve been praying a lot about making the best choice for myself and for my family.

I hope you’re having a great start to your (holiday!) week!

Posted in motherhood | Tagged | Leave a comment

Weekend! Links (and stuff)!

5 Things. (Well, 6 if we include the graphic.)

What to feed a Millennial

+ “100% of my happiness comes from only one measure: My energy.” (a life / happiness hack here)

+ Society6 is having a 25% off everything sale. I took advantage of it to buy some throw pillows in order to please my husband. Just kidding, he hates throw pillows. I think he even threatened something or other if I bought more of them. Shrug. I guess I wasn’t listening very well. (An extra $10 off if you use this link.)

+ Have you bought ‘Reputation’? I’m still debating it. I know, I know, I shouldn’t need this long to make a $13 decision, but I never purchase music unless it’s the Hamilton soundtrack or Adele. But maybe TSwift belongs in this (very elite, obvi) group, too? Tell me, is it worth it?

+ Things I haven’t been doing this weekend: decorating for Christmas. (Because it’s not even halfway through December yet and I don’t remember Thanksgiving happening… I can only prep for one holiday at a time, people!)

+ BUT, I’m always a fan of buying all of the things in holiday-themed fragrances, and Bath & Body Works is selling their three wick candles for $12.50 sooooo my house will be smelling like holidays. Probably all year round if I buy enough of them.

This weekend has been really productive (shockingly!) but now I’m drained and am not at all mentally prepared for Monday. Tomorrow may be a double-shot type of day.

Posted in currently | Tagged | 12 Comments

It’s two years later and I have the same thoughts on gun control.

I’m just going to leave the link to this post right here, because I wrote it almost two years ago and it’s still more applicable than ever, unfortunately.

We need to fix this because mamas shouldn’t need to fear bringing their babies to church, or anywhere else.

I’ll be snuggling my babes extra close today and avoiding as much of the news as possible, because my heart just can’t take it.

Hugs.

Posted in current events | Tagged | 4 Comments

A Playdate for the Dads

It’s Saturday morning at approximately 9:30am, and I’m back in bed. Because miracles do happen.

I have three glorious hours to myself this morning, and I’ve decided to spend them reading, editing photos, writing this quick blog post, and running an errand. I may even get really crazy and workout! The possibilities are endless!

This luxurious free time is made possible by my husband, who has decided to dedicate one Saturday morning a month to ‘Dads Morning’, which is essentially a playdate that frees up the moms to do whatever they want to. Glory, glory hallelujah!

Why a 'dads morning playdate' is good for everyone

This was Tim’s brain child, and I am 100% on board with it. As a SAHM, I take it for granted that I spend most of my mornings interacting with other moms and kids, so I get advice and see different interactions and swap battle stories with my peers. I’m glad that Tim is now able to do the same! Of course, we do have a lot of friends with kids, and we get together as families frequently, but it still isn’t the same dynamic as men and babies getting together, without the moms, to handle the kids and chat.

I think this dad playdate idea is accomplishing multiple things:

+ Most importantly (for me) – it’s giving moms a break!

Last month while the dads + kids played, the moms all went hiking together and it was wonderful! Today I’ve decided to stay in bed, instead, because sometimes it’s just nice to be at home without the chaos of kids begging for my attention.

+ Empowering dads.

I think it’s super, super important for dads to spend as much time as possible ‘alone’ with their kids. It’s vital that Tim knows I trust him with the girls and more than that, that I think he does a wonderful job. Some of Tim’s friends haven’t been dads as long as he has (a veteran at a whole 3 years of fatherhood!) so these morning playdates are a good way for the dads to spend time with their little ones out of the house, but in a non intimidating environment.

+ Enabling a different type of male bonding.

I think that men truly want to bond over dad stuff, but they (probably) don’t really want to talk about their kids over beers or while bowling or during any of the other activities men do during ‘bonding’ time. A playdate gives guys something to do, while simultaneously giving them the chance to chat about fatherhood.

If you have a little one (or multiple little ones!), and especially if you’re a full time SAHM, I encourage you to ask your partner for a morning off every month or so. I mean, you should probably get a morning off more often, but if you have an organized one every month, it really will give you something to look forward to! Encourage your partner to organize a playdate, or at the very least, take the kiddos out to the library/coffee shop/zoo/anywhere! 

You’ll all feel more refreshed afterwards.

Posted in motherhood | Tagged , , | 2 Comments

5 Things I’m Into

+ The Dirty John Podcast. I listened to it in two days and it was great. Other (somewhat) similar podcasts I’ve enjoyed: S-Town, Up & Vanished, Accused

+ My new Write the Word journal from Lara Casey’s Cultivate What Matters Shop. It’s a great way for me to get into the Word, write some prayers/hopes/dreams out, and take a few minutes to focus on what I’m really thinking about in life. I highly, highly recommend you consider buying one if you (like me) have a hard time reading the Bible each day.

Little Red Riding Hood - toddler Halloween costume

+ Photos of kids in costumes. I must admit, I spent wayyyyy to much time on social media yesterday because I had to ‘like’ every single picture of a kid in a costume. And there were lots and lots of photos of kids in costumes. So freakin’ adorable. 

+ Our espresso machine. We got this one a few months ago, and I’m not certain how I ever lived without it. I make myself a latte every day and I am one happy lady.

+ These apple pie bars that I couldn’t stop eating. Basically, they taste like a pie but are way easier to make! WIN!

I hope you had a fun Halloween! We’re almost to Friday. We can do this.

Posted in favorite things | Tagged , | 3 Comments