Thoughts on the Second Trimester (the third time around)

I’m well into the third trimester of this pregnancy and I simultaneously cannot believe it because it seems so quick, but also it feels like I’ve been pregnant forever. We’re going to meet this baby in about 2 months, and I’m once again left to wonder how my belly is going to stretch even one more inch to accommodate this growing baby! Yikes.

Now seems like a good time to recap my thoughts of the second trimester (which I’m defining as weeks 14-28 of pregnancy).

But first!

If you want to read about my second trimester…

  • the first time around, go here or here!
  • the second time around, go here!

Second Trimester Thoughts (the third time around)!

My Thoughts on the Second Trimester, the Third Time Around:

+ Not being able to take Advil (or other ibuprofen) is killing me…I’m having TMJ issues and now I have a migraine and I need ibuprofen and a muscle relaxer ASAP.

+ This is my favorite child. Only 14.5 weeks of nausea (as opposed to its sisters’ 16.5 weeks…) I’ll take it!

+ I spoke too soon. The nausea lasted approximately 20+ weeks. This might now be my least favorite child.

+ The prenatal screen came back ‘positive’ for Down Syndrome (at about 15 weeks), which really just means I have a slightly increased risk compared to the rest of my age group, so in to take yet another blood test I go…

+ The Harmony blood test results came back at very low risk of any trisomy disorders, so that eased my anxiety!

+ My energy! It’s back! I am unstoppable! I forgot how capable I am when i’m not nauseous and exhausted 24/7.

+ Oh hey, big belly! It’s weird how seeing myself this way is so familiar by now! I actually love the way I look when I’m pregnant, before I get too huge, so it’s nice to see my body change and grow.

+ And baby kicks – at 16 weeks!

+ I stole this pillow from Isabelle (who was using it in her bed!) and I love it, once again! Tim thinks the amount of pillows I use is unnecessary, but I say one can never have too many – especially with a pregnant belly!

+ I am the most awkward person about (not) telling people I’m pregnant. I should probably get on that since I’m almost 17 weeks along and almost no one knows… whoops.

+ I feel like when we tell people we’re pregnant, most people are low-key alarmed for us. Like ummm guys, you can barely handle two kids! You are going to be a mess with three! (We know, we know.)

+ As soon as my nausea went away, I got a horrible cold (which I can’t take medicine for) and am so over not feeling well.

+ Now a sinus infection?! I’ve never had one of these in my life. What the heck, body?!

+ If my eyes and eardrums explode out of my head, they’re going to need to emergency land this plane in Kansas… (actual thought I had on the way between Seattle and Chicago).

+ 21 weeks and I feel fantastic! For the first time all pregnancy!

+ I’m going to join a gym! (Done and done – I joined a gym with childcare and it is one of my better life choices.)

+ I have a cute bump!

+ I’m going to wear alllll the maternity things, because my shirts are officially hanging awkwardly off my belly. Thank goodness I have friends who are done having babies and gifted me so many maternity clothes (since I gave mine away after I had Isabelle).

+ Babe is constantly moving and they had a hard time getting images at 20 weeks and finding the heartbeat at every appointment, so I think this one is a boy. I love feeling all of the kicking and rolls! (Note, I also thought both Clara and Isabelle were boys at this stage. I clearly have no maternal instinct.)

+ How is that lady (on social media) 28 weeks pregnant?! She’s way smaller than me and I’m only 25 weeks!

+ Should I do all of the things or just rest a lot? I’m torn on how to spend my time… on one hand I want to plan travel (A babymoon! But with the girls.) and tackle house projects… on the other hand I don’t want to overwhelm my future (third trimester pregnant) self, because I know I’ll probably be more tired in a few months. Decisions, decisions.

+ I’m depending on this stuff to help combat dry skin, and maybe (hopefully!) stretch marks.

+ It’s weird not having a doula this time around. Or doing hospital tours. Or going to birthing classes. Or even doing prenatal yoga…

+ Plus I haven’t read even one post from a birth board. (Advice: never, ever read posts on birth boards unless you’re having an especially stressful pregnancy and need specific support from women in the same unique situation as you!)

+ … And I haven’t even thought about what we’ll need for a new baby! Being pregnant this (third) time is kind of weird.

+ Clara (and sometimes Isabelle) loves feeling the baby move! These moments of us cuddling together are so precious to me. Clara is still firmly convinced this baby is a girl, so I’m not quite sure what her reaction will be if it’s a boy!

Basically, the second trimester was not as magical this time around. In other pregnancies I felt not-as-huge and I got my energy back much more quickly. Plus I wasn’t dealing with a sinus infection and travel and just general yuckiness. I was disappointed with just how many weeks I was nauseous this pregnancy! I thought the second trimester would be wonderful, but instead it felt like a continuation of the first trimester until suddenly I felt like I was in an early third trimester with a huge belly that made it a bit awkward to move around! Sigh. But it did go by quickly!

Now I’m almost a month into the third trimester, already! It’s almost countdown to baby time! Actually, later this week I will hopefully know the exact date of this little one’s arrival, so that will make it seem real. Like really real.

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What I learned during Seattle’s Snowmageddon

Last week I wrote a post about the ‘Snowmageddon’ we had in Seattle this month. And I complained about it, a lot.

I must admit, though…

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There were some perks of being stuck at home for so long:

  • Tim worked from home most days, so we saw more of each other. Our marriage always does best when we spend more time together! (Such a crazy revelation, I know.)
  • I had a few lazy days in which I could read, blog, meal plan, do laundry… and just catch up on ‘life’ stuff while the girls played together, without  needing to be shuttled around.
  • Tim and I were able to enjoy winter conditions that reminded us of the Midwest, and to experience that with the girls was pretty fun! Plus, the snow was really beautiful as it was falling.
  • I loved seeing the girls play outside in the snow. Usually we go on a yearly ski trip so that we can all play in the snow together, but this spring we aren’t going on one (because I can’t ski when I’m this pregnant), so it was nice that the girls were still able to do some typical ‘winter’ activities.
  • With almost all social plans cancelled, me and Tim were both home at night, which made our schedules seem less rushed. We ate dinner with the girls together, played Yahtzee or watched a nightly TV show, did bedtime together… it was really nice for everyone.

Overall, I was able to look at my life and figure out what things I truly missed about my ‘normal’ schedule, and what things I was (surprisingly) happy to miss out on. This has made me more aware of what I can do to modify my schedule to achieve a more sustainable pace of life going forward.

Sometimes it’s nice to have an excuse to slow down, especially since I have a tendency towards FOMO and to absolutely fill my schedule. I’ve been getting better about that in recent years, but it’s still a work in progress.

Plus, I figured out how people get things done – they stay at home and do them! I am whatever the opposite of a homebody is, and I always wonder how so many things don’t manage to get done. But from being at home lately, I’ve learned that if I just stay indoors *, I can tackle tasks that I want to do, but never prioritize over going on a fun adventure.

* (With energy! That part is key. In the first trimester of pregnancy I was home all of the time, but I had no energy to do any of the things, and I’m feeling that way again in the third trimester, too, unfortunately.)

Sometimes we all need a little life interruption to keep us on our toes and to help us reevaluate our normal lives, right?! But I’m glad this particular one is over and life can go on as normal soon!

As I sit here listening to the rain on our roof, I’m thinking it’s the most beautiful sound. I’m over snow for now!

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Weekend Favorites (v6)

Good news! As of Thursday the girls are back in school! We survived the snow days! Except this upcoming week is mid-winter break, which means they’re back at home. Again. For like, the third week in a row. Womp.

Related – I will not survive summer without putting them in childcare! (Note to self…)

These past few days I have been tired. Like super, super tired. As in, if I get off the couch for a few hours I get so exhausted that I immediately need to lie back down and feel like I could take a nap – and I never nap! Pregnancy is kicking my butt these past few days!

But while I’m sitting on the couch, I can share…

Things I’m Into:

  • My favorite podcast on the enneagram types finally released their episode on type 8s! As a 7w8, I loved learning more about myself, but the main reason I’m listening (I’m only halfway through the podcast as I’m typing this) is because Tim is a type 8 and learning more about his type is always so helpful to me!
  • “The results: “Even when such examples of showing vulnerability might sometimes feel more like weakness from the inside, our findings indicate that, to others, these acts might look more like courage from the outside,” the researchers wrote.” (here)
  • I found this list of values and managed to pick my top 5. My goal is to (eventually) have Tim pick his top values and then for us to sit down together and determine our family’s top values. My hope is that this exercise will help us to prioritize and make better decisions on how we spend our time, energy, and other resources.
  • We also watched “Abducted in Plain Sight” (on Netflix). After we finished the documentary Tim asked why the heck I made him watch it… ha! He’s not as into the true crime doc stuff as much as I am, especially now that we have two daughters. I can watch the stuff that’s more ‘crazy’ than ‘creepy’.
  • “When my own son, then aged 12, started asking on Sunday nights, “Was that a weekend? Are you kidding?” I knew what he meant. In my family of four, weekends had become as gridlocked as weekdays. My husband and I were shuttling the kids to sports and playdates, cleaning and fixing our old, broken house, doing the washing – in short, tackling all the tasks neglected during the time-crunched week of a two-career household. And in between, we were scheduling pockets of work. What my son was mourning wasn’t the end of a great weekend, but the fact that those two days hadn’t seemed like a weekend at all; they were barely distinguishable from the five days before it.” (here)

What are you loving right now?! Share in the comments!

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Seattle Snowmageddon

The snow in Seattle came, and it was fun. For a while. And now it’s finally over. PHEW.

I was going to write a post about how the crazy amount of snow Seattle has suffered through taught me a bunch of things about myself. And how fun it was to have a few days ‘off’ so that my normal schedule was disrupted and I was forced to rest and how that was a good exercise for me.

But then ‘Snowmageddon’ kept going. And going. And going.

And now I have nothing nice to say about the whole fiasco.

Seattle Snowmageddon 2019 - Our experience!

… how it all began.

I was good for the first few days. Snow started falling on Superbowl Sunday and it was fluffy and really pretty. Then the girls’ preschool was (predictably) cancelled on Monday. Then Tuesday. Then Wednesday. But on Thursday they were back in class and I was happy to have a morning to myself. We had survived the first week! (The whole experience was extra-nice because I had a bit of a cold and loved not having to shuttle the girls around for a few days, and to have Tim at home to help with them. Win!)

Then all heck broke loose.

With the forecast looking pretty awful for Friday-early the next week, everyone in Seattle and the surrounding areas drove their Subarus to the nearest grocery store and bought every piece of produce and gallon of milk on the shelves. Oh and bread. People bought all of the bread. It was madness. I don’t know this from personal experience, because I am not a planner and did not get to the store on Thursday evening, but friends were sending pictures of the insanely long lines and completely empty shelves. Even the frozen food sections were cleaned out at some stores!

Seattle Snowmageddon 2019 - Our experience!

On Friday, Tim drove to the mountains with Clara for her skiing lesson, and I was more-than-a-bit concerned that he was going to get snowed in at the mountain pass and I would be at home with Isabelle for a few days by myself. With strict instructions to leave as soon as the snow started falling heavily – he left home – and Isabelle and I went about our day! Everything closed early, so we stayed inside to watch the snow fall.

By Saturday, everything was covered in snow and it was still falling heavily. We went outside and said ‘hello’ to neighbors we don’t normally see walking around in the winter, went sledding, drank hot chocolate, played fetch with Oz (who loves catching snowballs in his mouth)… we did all of the things.

And then did more of all the things on Sunday. (But for less hours). Church was cancelled, so we had a ton of time to just be with each other. We enjoyed a slow morning and spent the afternoon outside.

By Monday, we were ready for the girls to go back to school, but the roads were a mess so we knew it would be cancelled again – of course it was.

By Tuesday, I was really annoyed that we had to cancel our local MOPS group meeting (again!) because that meant more time at home, without friends and without a hot breakfast. Thankfully, swim lessons were still happening, so we had an excuse to leave the house. On Tuesday afternoon it started raining, so the heaviness of the wet snow/slush started causing trees to fall down. We lost power on Tuesday night, but some people lost their power for far longer.

On Wednesday I was about to completely lose my mind, but a friend came over to do some DIY projects around the house, and she brought her kids to entertain mine. Hallelujah. Just when it looked like preschool would be cancelled again the next day…

We received an email saying that even though Seattle Public Schools are on a delayed start on Thursday (which usually means an automatic cancellation for the girls’ preschool) we have school!

Oh happy freakin’ day.

Sidenote… The girls (and all other kids in the Seattle area) are off school all of next week for mid-winter break. Worst. Timing. Ever. Parents are hilariously over this sh*t and are taking to social media to vent, which makes my own experience these past few weeks feel a little better.

So, we’ve survived. There is no more snow in the forecast, and we are back to our regularly scheduled program for about two days until next week arrives and we’re on a midwinter break schedule. Sigh.

Seattle Snowmageddon 2019 - Our experience!

Now, just to be clear, there are reasons Seattle cannot handle snow. It’s because we generally have mild (albeit wet) winters and normally don’t get snow. Like, we have flakes fall from the sky sometimes, but it rarely sticks. We  A single snow day is pretty rare. Multiple snow days is kind of unheard of. People say this happens every 10 years or so, and are comparing this storm to one in the 1950s or maybe even 1900s. Seattle doesn’t salt their roads and they barely have any plows and with all of the hills in the area, it’s just a mess to try to get around. So even though the 20 inches or so I think they’re reporting from this storm doesn’t sound that crazy to people in the Midwest or East coast, it is panic-inducing here. There really are people who haven’t been able to leave their houses in almost a week!

Seattle Snowmageddon 2019 - Our experience!

Basically, February has been chaos for us. If I said January felt like the longest month ever, it’s only because I didn’t know what February would have in store! On one hand it seems like it’s been going quickly, because we’re already halfway through – on the other hand I feel like nothing at all has happened this month!

Maybe that’s a good thing, though? I guess it’s yet to be determined.

I should sign off by saying Happy Valentine’s Day! Yet another thing that has been completely off my radar… whoops!

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Weekend Favorites (v5)

Well it may as well be that ‘lost’ week between Christmas and New Years, because I have no idea what day it is and everything is a blur. We’re just at home… existing. Except the crazy thing is that there’s snow on the ground here so we are playing outside like we would be if we were still in the Midwest! School was cancelled three days last week, and is already cancelled tomorrow, and likely for a majority of this week, too. Sooooo it’s been interesting. More on that in a different blog post.

In the meantime…

Things I’m Into:

  • “Rather than asking ‘What’s the most important thing I can do today?’, time multipliers ask ‘What’s the most important thing I can do today that would make tomorrow better?’… Vaden shares the 4 questions that time multipliers ask of the items on their to-do lists in order to free up their hours in the future.” (here)
  • I’ve been listening to this playlist on repeat. It’s such nice background music for my day.
  • Have you watched The Marvelous Mrs Maisel on Amazon? Tim and I are making our way through the second season and are really enjoying it!
  • “After 30 days of email abstinence, I realized that email isn’t good or bad. It’s merely a tool. By stepping away from it, I’ve learned how to use it in a way that is productive, rather than letting it push me around me like a helpless captive. Most importantly, I learned how to take more control of my day-to-day life, and developed a greater perspective on what truly matters.” (here)
  • I read this book last week and it was such a quick, easy read. I highly recommend it if you’re into a light (not-too-trashy) romance novel.

What are you loving right now?! Share in the comments!

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