Weekend Favorites (v10)

Last weekend on the blog I mentioned that Tim and Clara were both sick, but I’m happy to report that the flu did not end up taking our whole family down… at least not yet! Knock on all of the wood.

Once Tim got sick I sent him right to urgent care to get Tamiflu for himself and Isabelle (I had already gotten a prescription for myself from the doctor when Clara got the flu a few days earlier) so our whole family was taking this medicine for a week, and I really think it helped the sick family members recover quickly and the healthy ones to stay healthy! Phew. Tim was only sick for about 24-36 hours and I am so thankful because I am exhausted and thought he might be in bed for much longer.

Still, it was a long and tiring week as everyone recovered / attempted to stay healthy. We stayed on top of cleaning all of the things, which is no easy task with toddlers.

This weekend was filled with resting, pizza with friends, a trip to the beach, early morning church service (it’s a miracle all four of us made it to the 8am service!) brunch with friends, gathering with our small group… it was a nice, laid-back time. I would say I’m recharged for the week ahead, but I don’t think anything about me feels recharged at any point anymore. But that’s neither here nor there… a pregnancy update post for another time, perhaps!

Onto…

Things I’m Into:

  • I just finished reading “The Perfect Couple” and really enjoyed it! If you’re looking for a book to get sucked into, I recommend this one.
  • “What we eat now is a greater cause of disease and death in the world than either tobacco or alcohol. In 2015 around 7 million people died from tobacco smoke, and 2.75 million from causes related to alcohol, but 12m deaths could be attributed to “dietary risks” such as diets low in vegetables, nuts and seafood or diets high in processed meats and sugary drinks.” (here) 
  • Speaking of food… this (paleo-friendly) salad looks absolutely delicious and has me dreaming of all things summer.+ Tim and I are among the growing number of cord cutters. We’ve tried it before (when we were both working and before we had kids) and then decided to go back to it once I started staying at home with the girls… now we’re switching again to the world of online streaming.
  • “The ‘sorry’s that fill our written interactions also need to be noticed — and banished. For emails, Jovanovic says, “There’s a Google Chrome plug-in called ‘just not sorry’ that will alert you to all the needless apologies.” With texts, she points out, “Every single one of us has responded to a text you got when you weren’t able to respond right away. What did you say? ‘Sorry.’” She says, “Don’t apologize — say, ‘I was working,’ ‘I was reading,’ ‘I was driving, ‘I was trying to put on Spanx.’ Whatever it is, it’s all good. You don’t have to apologize.” (here) 
  • “In future-proofing my life, I have made every day richer. A problem shared is a problem halved, my kids were taught at school. Communities do that too.” (here)
  • I want all of the things from this print shop, but I ended up deciding on this one as a large print for over our fire place. I can’t wait to see it once it’s framed / hung!

I hope your week is off to a terrific start!

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Pregnancy is different this third time.

Preparing to add a third kid to our family feels so different than preparing to add a first or second.

How my third pregnancy has differed from my first two.

I mean, when I was this pregnant (36+ weeks) with Clara, I was thinking I could go into labor at any time! I was still working and staying distracted and reading pregnancy message boards wayyyyy more than I should have been. I had three baby showers (plus a work party for me and the other two pregnant ladies who were expecting kiddos the same month I was!) and it was such a fun time! I didn’t have many friends with kids, so I truly had no idea what to expect. In our free time Tim and I did a partner yoga class together and we went to birthing / parenting classes. We spent most of our time relaxing, working, and seeing friends… We basically continued life as normal, but also with a lot of parenting/birthing classes, books, thoughts, hospital tours, etc. Our world revolved around the pregnancy. I went to prenatal yoga every week, I did Hypnobabies to prepare for the labor, I drafted a birth plan, we met with our doula regularly, and I marveled at the way my body was changing… it was all so interesting! Plus exciting. And a little scary/intimidating.

When I was in this stage of pregnancy with Isabelle, I was meeting with our doula and OB fairly frequently and trying to figure out how in the world to get that baby out vaginally. I knew I’d probably be delivering well past my due date (I had the benefit of experience and had gone 41+3 days with Clara), so I knew I had nothing but time on my hands. Having a 20 month old toddler at home also kept life interesting, plus we had just moved to Seattle 6 months before, so we spent our spring exploring new playgrounds and enjoying the gorgeous weather and entertaining family and friends who were visiting. Plus, we had an Airbnb and were really preoccupied a lot of the time! But I was still able to rest a bit, I think. Actually, who knows, I have no memory of that entire time in my life, to be honest! There was just so much change happening that it all flows together in my mind! We still had a birth plan, we toured the hospital, I had a ‘to pack’ list posted on my refrigerator in case I went into labor, and my thoughts were preoccupied with all things Spinning Babies and VBAC – plus turning thirty years old and attempting to coordinate out-of-town visitors who were flying in to help.

This time around… things are different. Physically, everything is the (exact!) same as the previous two pregnancies, but I feel more intimidated adding a third baby to the mix just because I feel so maxed out parenting two preschoolers these days. And, to be honest, I’m just more tired and worn out this time around. Maybe it’s ‘old’ age, maybe it’s parenting the two kids I already have. Although, having a three year age gap between Isabelle and this new baby makes me feel more at ease, so I’m cautiously optimistic about that. This time around Tim and I know what to expect (Kind of. At least we have prior experiences in welcoming new babies home.) so we’re able to plan ahead a bit differently. We know this baby will have to be born via c-section, so for the first time we know the date this baby will be arriving, unless (s)he comes early. (Ha!) Since we don’t have family in town, it’s nice to know when people should plan on visiting to help out for a few days, especially when I’m in the hospital. We had to buy a different car, so we took care of that. We’re also trying to be very realistic with what our childcare needs will be since we failed miserably at that when Isabelle was born. (I needed more help and we should have gotten it.) We know the first few weeks (maybe months!) might be difficult for me physically (based on past c-section experiences), so we’re attempting to get miscellaneous things done so we can truly relax with our family. We’ve been working on simplifying schedules and establishing more structure into the girls’ time at home so they get used to playing independently. I have so many more mom friends than I did when I was pregnant the first time, which really does help!

Basically, this time around feels less magical and more logistical. Bleh. I actually like not needing to plan things, so even though it’s kind of nice to know the baby’s delivery date, I preferred feeling like God was in control the first two times around. Now I feel like everything is really medical. I also didn’t like having to choose the baby’s birthday and am still wondering if we made the right decision. Plus we still haven’t thought of a name for this kid yet. Details, details. It’s kind of nice feeling like I don’t need to obsess about this baby and my pregnancy and the birth, though. Being a mom and pregnant is so hard, but it’s also so good because 1) it’s super distracting and makes time fly by and 2) it makes me realize why I’m doing all of this nonsense for 9+ months… To have a baby! Who is going to grow up to fight play with his/her sisters nonstop! What fun! 😉 But truly, I know what immense love comes with having a child, and so I am able to worry less and relax more and think through the logistical details instead of fixating on hypothetical scenarios about the time and type of birth.

We’re about a month away from finding out so much about this newest little family member, and it’s just so, so crazy to me. Like, as much as I KNOW that there’s a full baby inside of me, I also can’t believe we’re having another one. It’s going to be a wild ride.

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Weekend Favorites (v9)

It seems I waited until the very last hour of the weekend to publish this post… typical!

Clara came down with the flu on Thursday and Tim got sick on Sunday afternoon. Womp. The whole family is now on Tamiflu to either avoid getting it (me and Isabelle) or to get better soon (Clara and Tim). Although, Clara did bounce back within 48 hours, so I’m hoping Tim can do the same.

At 36 weeks pregnant I just cannot handle Tim being sick! Everything is just too much effort.

Quickly, quickly…

Things I’m Into:

  • I cracked up while listening to this podcast episode. I actually haven’t listened to any of their other episodes, so I can’t speak to the podcast (‘The Popcast’) in general, but this one was freakin’ hilarious.
  • “A patient person is simply someone who’s in the habit of applying patience to these moments, which is to say they refrain from trying to be already past them while they’re happening.” (here)
  • “If you begin decluttering the low-value digital distractions from your life before you’ve convincingly filled in the void they were helping you ignore, the experience will be unnecessarily unpleasant at best, and a massive failure at worse. The most successful digital minimalists, therefore, tend to start their conversion by renovating what they do with their free time–cultivating high-quality leisure before culling the worst of their digital habits.” (here) 
  • I like to read some nonfiction books in between fiction binges, and right now I’m reading a Tiger Woods biography. I find it (and him) totally fascinating so far! I’m in the very first part of the book, but I highly recommend it.

Send all thoughts / prayers for health our way!

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We’ve been making some big decisions around here!

As I briefly mentioned in my previous blog post, a lot of things have been happening around here lately! (I was just about to type that we’re about 50 days away from meeting our tiniest baby, but then I just checked and realized we’re only about 30 freakin’ days away. YIKES. So there’s that.)

Big Decisions!

In the past few weeks…

+ We bought a minivan. I’m officially a minivan person. Sigh. Tim is thrilled and I’m working on accepting that this is now my life – haha! We were having the hardest time figuring out whether we were going to get an SUV (with a third row) or a minivan, and we finally decided that we were going to buy a used minivan to last us a few years until the girls are out of carseats. Then we’ll re-evaluate. Our thinking is that if we love the minivan life, we’ll buy a new one (or more likely we’d keep the one we just bought until we need a new one, if we love it), or we’d switch to an SUV, because the girls would be at an age where they could climb into the back and buckle themselves in easily. I feel really good about our decision, but I hate driving big vehicles so we’ll see how I like it when it turns into my ‘usual’ car. We’re also keeping our small SUV and electric car, for now.

+ We hired an au pair. We’re excited that we’ll be hosting an au pair at our home starting this summer! More details on that to come… maybe.

+ We did a maternity photoshoot. We were supposed to do it back in February, but had to keep rescheduling because of the snow. My bump was definitely bumpin’ during the shoot (I would have preferred it to not be quite so big!) but I think the pictures are going to turn out great. I haven’t seen them yet! The girls were very cooperative and happy and even though it was a little bit chilly, the sun was shining and we were fine to walk around without our coats on. Wins all around! We celebrated by going out to brunch afterwards and it was such a nice day together.

+ We confirmed a c-section date. If you follow me on Instagram, you may have seen that I was having a hard time picking a c-section date for Baby #3. Normally I would have opted to have this baby at 39 weeks, but my birthday falls right around the 39 week mark. I couldn’t decide whether I wanted to share my birthday or not, but we ultimately decided to wait until a few days after my birthday to have this little guy/gal. I’m sure that last week is going to feel very long, but this baby will still be born about 2 weeks earlier than his/her sisters! It feels surreal to know the actual delivery date. I keep joking with people that I’m sure somehow it will end up getting pushed back, because anytime I try to schedule something ahead of time, it doesn’t work out!

It feels good to have so many things checked off our pre-baby to-do list. I mean, granted I still have a lot I want to get done over the next few weeks, but these were the major things we wanted to get taken care of. Tim and I are never prepared ahead of time, so I’m extra impressed with ourselves. I feel like my mental load is decreasing, which is always a good thing! Now I just have to do the smaller things in life that I just want to get done and out of the way so we can take the rest of April ‘off’ and focus on just having fun and surviving as a family of five!

Wish us luck!

Were any of you around in the ‘good old days’ of blogging when there were link-ups every single day?! Like, multiple link-ups? So you really never even had to think of a subject to write about, because somewhere, someone was prompting you. Ah, memories. All that to say, I’m joining Kristen for her ‘What’s New’ link-up today!

 

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Weekend Favorites (v8)

We’ve been getting sh*t stuff done this past week! We decided on a car, hired an au pair, confirmed a c-section date… we’re moving right along in this baby preparedness plan (or lack thereof). Tim and I do not necessarily excel at planning ahead, so this progress (a whole month ahead of time!) is making me feel great!

But also, I’m 35 weeks pregnant and am feeling large and was up all of last night (I finally fell asleep  at 6am and woke up at 9:30am for church) with false labor… so there’s that! I think I kind of forced myself to forget how uncomfortable the third trimester can be and am now being rudely reminded. But still, I’m feeling mentally on top of it, so I can handle the physical discomfort. Moving on.

Things I’m Into:

  • I started the Momma Strong program this month, and it’s been perfect for me! I wish I would have signed up earlier. I still prefer to use the app Aaptiv when I go to the gym, but let’s be honest, these last few weeks of pregnancy aren’t ideal for me going to the gym and doing a whole heck of a lot. Momma Strong offers a 15 minute workout every single day for pregnant ladies, postpartum ladies, and mommas who are years out from having kids. And it’s only $5 per month.
  • Speaking of exercise, I’m bookmarking this squat workout to do when I’m feeling like doing actual workouts again. (So maybe in 3 years? 4 years? Never?)
  • I’m a huge fan of John Gottman, so when I saw that he was interviewed by Dax Shepard on his podcast, I had to listen. The conversation was so, so good and I immediately forced strongly encouraged Tim to listen to it, too.
  • “What you put in your brain influences your thoughts. And the quality of your thoughts influences the outcome of your life. That’s why I protect the gates to my brain as much as I can. You do that by not consuming junk information like the news or mindless entertainment. You also do that by not associating with toxic people. And you also nurture your brain by reminding yourself of all the things that make life better. Here are 14 of those things. When I do these things, I’m a better person.” (here) 
  • I finished this book this past week, and I highly recommend it for a good (light) fiction read. Plus, the ebook is only $2 on Amazon right now.
  • Now I’m onto this book. I’m enjoying it so far. I’ll report back when I’m done!

What are you loving right now?

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