If you read my post the other week, you know that I’m now a ‘housewife’ or something like that. I mean, I’m definitely a stay-at-home wife, for now… but I’m not exactly doing it by choice, so does that make me a ‘housewife’ or simply someone who kind of stays at home between jobs?
I’m not sure, and it probably doesn’t matter anyway.
What I do know is that the Husband was probably expecting me to be a little more helpful than I have been around the house. (Although to be fair, this man knew me when we were dating and never have I ever been even the slightest bit interested in becoming domesticated.)
Going from full-time worker to unexpected-stay-at-home wife has been quite a challenge!
I mean, it has only been a month… and I’m just getting warmed up (I think?!) so maybe there’s time for me to become a true housewife, yet! Although, I kind of hope to land my dream job soon, so maybe I don’t want to ever get too good at this house stuff.
This is what I thought I’d do as a stay-at-home wife:
- Wake up at 8am
- Drink tea
- Eat oatmeal and fruit
- Read the paper and online news
- Read blogs
- Write my own blog post
- Setup my social media for the day
- Chat with girlfriends online
- Meet a friend for lunch
- Workout
- Shower
- Clean
- Apply for jobs
- Take the Monster on long walks
- Run errands
- Cook dinner
- Drink wine
- Enjoy the evening with my husbands and/or friends
- Go to sleep at 10:30pm
This is what I actually do as a stay-at-home wife:
- Wake up at 9am (or 9:30…)
- Wander downstairs in my pajamas
- Think about eating breakfast but then decide it’s too much effort
- Get totally distracted by Facebook and Twitter
- Read some blog posts but then get distracted by Google Chat and applying for jobs
- Watch random TV shows on Hulu.com
- Talk to friends for hours on the phone
- Eat cheese and crackers for lunch
- Workout (some days)
- Shower (if I’m feeling extra motivated)
- Take the Monster on walks
- Sit outside on my porch in a bikini with a good book but really just scroll through Twitter or Instagram
- Text the Husband around 5pm to see when he plans on getting home
- Frantically clean an hour before he comes home so the house at least looks better than when he left
- Ask the Husband what he plans on cooking for dinner (and supervise him while he makes it)
- Drink wine
- Socialize with friends or sit in the same room as the Husband while we’re both doing other things (me applying for jobs and him working)
- Write a blog post at 11pm when I realize I haven’t written one that day
- Go to sleep at 2am, well after the Husband has already fallen asleep
So you see, I’m productive on my days off, I just haven’t been doing quite everything I’d like to do. But I’m allowing myself some flexibility, for now. Although, I still do want to finish our wedding / honeymoon scrapbooks and albums before our one year anniversary! The weird thing is, I feel busier now that I stay at home than I ever felt at work – I just feel less rushed to finish everything.
So strange, right?! I would have thought I’d be bored staying at home by myself all day!
Honestly, before this experience, I never understood what women did if they were a stay-at-home wife without kids… but now I totally get it! Plus, for the first time in my life I could actually see myself deciding to be a stay-at-home mom eventually. I mean, I probably still won’t, but I would consider it as a viable option.There are a ton of things I could do at home! I’m sure I’d get bored eventually (probably as soon as the weather gets cold), but for now (since our Monster is the only thing I have to take care of), I’m loving the extra sleep and relaxation time I get.
I just think I should get a bit better about doing household shit stuff. If only I had taken classes in college on how to effectively clean a house, wash the dishes, and cook a healthy dinner… You may think I’m kidding, but I’m very serious! I somehow missed the ‘how to be a functioning human being’ classes among my higher level accounting/finance courses. Wah wah.
Working people – I salute you, working is stressful and not so great most some of the time!
Stay-at-home wives (or husbands!) – Good for you! You probably excel at this stuff way better than I do. I really thought about opening a beer at 10am this morning, just because I was so relaxed. Then I realized that I was still eating breakfast and it just didn’t seem right to drink beer while eating Frosted Flakes. Anyway, teach me your ways! Do you have a schedule? Do you manage to be productive throughout the day? How do you actually run a house?!
Cheers to productivity, in all of its forms!
