Sleep Challenges (with two toddlers)

Ohhh sleep.

Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a cure-all for this? A formula that if followed would guarantee your kid would sleep through the night?

I am blessed to be a part of quite a few awesome mom communities, and if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that what works for one family will probably not work for another one. Especially when it comes to sleep.

We’ve been dealing with sleep issues for about 3.5 years now!

Thoughts on Sleep Training with Two Kids (3 and Under)

Thoughts on Sleep Training with Two Kids (3 and Under)

To recap:

+ I have no clue when we got Clara to sleep through the night, because I blocked it out of my memory. I’m assuming it was at about a year, when we decided to night wean her. I breastfed on demand for the first year of her life (even at night) and it’s not something I’d do again.
+ She did great until she learned how to climb out of her crib. Then we had to ‘sleep train’ her again so that she’d stay in her bed/room through the night.
+ Potty training (at about that time) also caused some issues, as she would wake up yelling that she had to pee, because she knew it would get her out of her room.
+ At 2.5 years old, Clara started staying awake until 11pm (but still taking long naps) and we finally addressed that problem when she turned 3, which I wrote about here.

… And of course when Clara was going through all of this drama, we had Isabelle.

+ Isabelle (even as a newborn) almost never slept longer than an hour during the day. It was miserable and definitely not the newborn experience we had with Clara.
+ She’s still a light sleeper.
+ Getting her to sleep through the night has been tough, mostly because we didn’t have the energy to ‘sleep train’ her while we were staying up until 11pm with an energetic toddler.
+ It seems like we’re able to ‘sleep train’ her after a few days, but then travel or sickness makes it so that she has a few restless nights, and then she’s broken for a few weeks until we ‘sleep train’ her again. It feels constant.
+ As soon as she started sleeping through the night, her wake-up times got earlier and earlier and soon 4am was her new wakeup.
+ Now we’re working on making her wakeup time a very-late (wink) 6am, but this she usually wakes up at 3am to go potty. Fine, we’ll take it.
+ At least bedtime and naptimes are easy. She gets put in her crib, we leave, she goes to sleep, it’s nice. (We were rocking her to sleep for almost 18 months.)
+ One of the things that is hardest about Isabelle is that she will scream and scream for HOURS. Even if we go in every 10 minutes to soothe her. This, of course, wakes Clara and the entire house up and then we’re all unable to function the next day. So of course, this is one reason we put off ‘sleep training’ until we had a better handle on life. And we only focused on bits and pieces at a time. Like first was getting on a feeding schedule that wasn’t on-demand, then night weaning, then night waking, then going to bed awake, and now extending naptimes and wake-up times. It seems to be never-ending with this one!
+ On a positive note, Clara’s sleep is great!


+ Clara wakes up and moves into our bed some nights.
+ And sometimes she needs help going to the potty.


Sleep training two young kiddos is a whole different ballgame than it was to just sleep train Clara when she was the only baby in the house!

I mean, from a very early age, Isabelle has been carried around to toddler events and preschool drop-offs and gym classes and friends’ houses and wasn’t able to get on a great sleep schedule. I’m not the type of person who enjoys being at home, so the girls and I get out a lot. However, during the summer of last year, when Isabelle was about 15 months old, I did make sure I was home for a consistent naptime for Isabelle so that we could get a bedtime routine under control and to ensure both girls would fall asleep at the same time each night. And that was a game-changer! It worked like a charm.

Sometimes I feel ‘mom guilt’ for not having the type of schedule that helps toddlers to sleep. Like it’s truly hard for me to leave events early for naptime and bedtime and and I’m not a structured person in general, so to try to create that for my family has been difficult. And I even feel a little guilty for not being able to work with Isabelle more when we were too tired from helping Clara with her own sleep issues. Sometimes being the mom of two tears me in so many different directions and it’s hard to prioritize.

It still feels like survival over here, but we’re finally getting it figured out.

My conclusion is that I know we’ve been doing the best we can, but it’s still hard not to wonder WHY my kid has such a hard time sleeping when other kids do it (relatively) easily. I’ve read the books, I’ve tried the methods, and Isabelle is just stubborn. I’m sure there is more we could have done, but I’m not sure what I would have done differently given all of the factors that were at play through these last few years.

Now that we’re finally, FINALLY getting into a routine that works for our family… we’re planning a few trips. In different time zones. Sigh. Pray for us and our sanity.

Parents of multiple kids, was it harder for you to get your second (or third, or fourth, etc!) kid to sleep through the night?

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Need a book recommendation? Or a few?

Two blog posts in two days?!

Well you see, my goal this month is to write two blog posts each week, and it appears I procrastinated a bit this week. Whoops. 

In my defense, this week has been a complete shit show mess. Both girls threw up once and Clara had fevers for a few nights in a row and basically no one is sleeping because they don’t feel well. And Isabelle has decided 4:30am is the new 7am so her days are starting EARLY. Plus she’s getting her 2 year molars (says her ped, which explains why she’s been especially fussy lately!) And then on top of all of this nonsense, Tim got a migraine and was out of commission for an entire day.

It’s always something!

We’re working on all of this mess. Kind of. Parenting joys. I will not miss these types of weeks (as the girls get older), but I do recognize the blessing that my ‘bad weeks’ are when the girls have minor health issues that disrupt our schedule. I’m so appreciative of good health and I take it for granted far too often!

Moving on to the point of this post…


I read 46 books last year – which is 6 off my goal! Although, I read a lot of long, nonfiction books, so I’m still quite pleased with how much time I spent reading, and the quality of what I read.

In case you’re looking for some recommendations….

Book Recommendations (A Lot Of Them!)

Books I read in 2017:

(sorted by the rankings I gave them in Goodreads.)

5 Stars

(I’m noticing that almost all of these are nonfiction, except for the last two! Read these.)

Secondhand Time: The Last of the Soviets

Evicted: Poverty and Profit in the American City

Romantic Outlaws: The Extraordinary Lives of Mary Wollstonecraft and Her Daughter Mary Shelley

The Year of Living Danishly: My Twelve Months Unearthing the Secrets of the World’s Happiest Country

The Magnolia Story

The Broken Way: A Daring Path into the Abundant Life

The Boys in the Boat: Nine Americans and Their Epic Quest for Gold at the 1936 Berlin Olympics

Simple Matters: Living with Less and Ending Up with More

Wonder (1 of 2 fiction books in this section!)

The Kitchen House (1 of 2 fiction books in this section!)

4 Stars

(I also think you should read these)

Louisa: The Extraordinary Life of Mrs Adams

Present Over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living

American Housewife

Another Brooklyn

Today Will Be Different

Born to Run

Glory Over Everything: Beyond the Kitchen House

The Nightingale

The Shoemaker’s Wife

White Trash: The 400-Year Untold History of Class in America

The Nest

The Days of Abandonment

The Sound of Gravel: A Memoir

The Twelve Lives of Samuel Hawley


The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo

Promise Me, Dad: A Year of Hope, Hardship, and Purpose

My Name is Lucy Barton

3 Stars

(I enjoyed these, but wouldn’t necessarily think to recommend them to a friend.)

I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual

How to Be a Person in the World: Ask Polly’s Guide Through the Paradoxes of Modern Life


If You Only Knew


The Polygamist’s Daughter

Loving Frank

The Lost Daughter

Year of No Clutter

Chasing Slow: Courage to Journey Off the Beaten Path

A Hundred Summers

The Little Book of Hygge: The Danish Way to Live Well

Loving My Actual Life: An Experiment in Relishing What’s Right in Front of Me

Clutterfree with Kids

How to Hygge: The Nordic Secrets to a Happy Life

2 Stars

(These weren’t my favorite.)


The Arrangement

The Rooster Bar

What was the BEST book you read last year?!

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Favorites of 2017

I’m still over here thinking about 2017. Before we get too far into 2018, let me share some of my favorite things from last year. Although this comes with a huge asterisk, since most of these are favorites from the last few months, as my memory is a little foggy before then!

Favorite Things of 2017

My favorite thing to do in 2017 was to go on adventures. Any adventure.

Here are some of my favorite things from 2017!

(Favorite) Things I shopped for:

+ My slippers
+ My leather tote (big enough for my laptop and can also be used as a “diaper bag” now that my kids are older and don’t need quite as much)
+ The backpack I use instead of a diaper bag (I bought it a while ago but have used it nonstop this year. Can I just go ahead and say this is one of the top 5 things I own?! I use it every single day.)

(Favorite) Trips we took:

+ Park City, UT
+ Whistler, BC
+ Lake Cushman (in WA)
+ Winthrop & North Cascades (in WA)
+ Wenatchee (in WA)
+ Portland (OR)
+ Camping!! (in general)
** We stayed very local these past 12 months, and I kind of loved it! But I’m ready to go a bit further this year.

(Favorite) Recipes I made:

+ This quinoa enchilada crockpot recipe
+ The Pioneer Woman’s cinnamon rolls
+ Joy The Baker’s peas and goat cheese tortilla

(Favorite) Journals I’ve written in:

+ This weekly planner (I’ve been using it for 2 years and love it!)
+ The goal setting guide from Lara Casey(sold out, but sign up to receive emails!)
+ The ‘Write the Word’ journal, which is how I stay accountable to read and reflect on the Bible daily

(Favorite) Shows I watched via Netflix:

+ Parenthood
+ The Crown

(Favorite) Podcasts I listened to:

+ True Crime Obsessed
+ For the Love with Jen Hatmaker
+ (and 23 other ones…)

(Favorite) Services I signed up for:

Amazon Fresh
Imperfect Produce (use the referral link to get $10 off!)
Le Tote (use the referral link to get a free tote!)

(Favorite) Apps I use:

+ Aaptiv (I prefer going to the gym, but when I only have time for a quick jog or yoga/stretching/strength session in my living room, I love this app!)
+ 1SE (I made a video recap of 2017 and am doing the same for 2018!)
+ Tinybeans (I try to take daily pics of the girls to share with friends/family)
+ Marco Polo (Basically a video voicemail… at least that’s how I use it! This is great for grandparents and long distance family/friends!)

I’m doing another post over the weekend or early next week with a list of favorite books I read, since there were quite a few!

Do you have any favorites from 2017?! Per usual, I love your recommendations!

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What I did well in 2017

Yikes, we’re almost midway through January and I’m still in major New Years mode.

The self-reflection is out of control over here, and I am loving every second of it. It’s daunting, but I’m learning so much about myself and about  my life. Once I get more mentally organized I’m going to share some of my thoughts with you in case you find it helpful!

I’m viewing 2018 in a new (more organized, intentional) way, and am working on decluttering my mental state. And do you know how when you’re organizing anything you first take everything out of place, put it on the table, and only put back what’s necessary?

Do you know how messy and overwhelming that initial phase can be? That’s basically my mental state right now. I have everything all over the table and am sorting it out and figuring out how to put it back in its proper place, and what I need to get rid of.

Deep, right?! So necessary, as well.

What I Did Well in 2017

One of the things I am thinking about is what went particularly well in my life last year. (Sometimes it feels like I keep drafting goals and resolutions and never look back to give myself a pat on the back for things that I’ve been working on!)

Here’s what I did well in 2017:

I picked up books instead of my phone.

In 2016 I think I read about 60 books, and last year I was right around 50. However, in 2016 I was heavily pregnant and with a newborn, so I think I spent more time sitting in general. I still feel like last year I did much better with reading books instead of scrolling news and social media. (The annoying Instagram algorithm and nonstop awful news helped with this!)

I joined groups and met friends.

I’m very active in our local MOPS group (and took on a leadership role this past year!) and have also participated in Hike It Baby events. This next year I’m hoping to participate in more groups, but last year I joined them, which is the first step!

I worked on my hair and makeup “skills”.

Basically, I watched tutorials and tried whatever they said to do. Some things worked better than others. I also tried to use only the products I already had, so I should probably work on buying some new things in 2018. The most important improvements in 2017 were 1) learning to curl my hair and 2) learning how to best put on eye makeup.

I made progress in identifying my personal style. 

My house and my closet is all over the place when it comes to style. I simply cannot identify a style that I most love, and instead seem to pick bits and pieces of everything and hope it works together. (Spoiler: it doesn’t and everything is a mess!) However, in 2017 I worked hard at identifying what styles I actually really love and have been making a little bit of progress in getting my house (and myself) pulled together cohesively! I have started being more picky about what I buy and only purchase things I love, that will go with everything else. I still have a lot of work to do in this area, but progress was made!

I left space in my schedule.

In past years, I attempted to completely fill my calendar. I didn’t have days (or even hours!) with nothing to do, and we were out of the house constantly. When Tim and I first started living together, we had plans every single evening. Now, we’ve stopped planning our lives to that extent (and almost have the opposite problem, of not planning enough!) I  think that moving to Seattle has really helped us slow down, and of course having two toddlers helps with that, too. We’re still busy people, but I have a lot of space in my calendar to say ‘yes’ to invitations. I think this has helped us make good friends, as we just aren’t those people (anymore) who have to say no to everything because they’re too ‘busy’. No one wants to be those people, and I don’t think many people actually want to be friends with those people, either.

I have big (and some small) ways I’m going to continue to make improvements in my life in 2018, but I’m proud of the progress I’ve made so far!

What did you do well in 2017?

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Continuing to beautify (with Smile Brilliant) + GIVEAWAY!

My ‘resolution’ in 2017 was to beautify all of the things, myself included. I will say that I made progress in most areas of this. I worked on our (rental) house, I bought more clothes I truly loved, I dressed the girls in clothes I love… I did pretty well, if I do say so myself.

Although, I did wait until the last month on some of the things I wanted to do. I finally got around to learning how to use my curling wand in December (and am still working on my lack of skills) and I also finally got around to whitening my teeth – something I had been putting off for way too long!

Smile Brilliant Teeth Whitening

Thankfully, Smile Brilliant contacted me to review their teeth whitening kit, otherwise I probably would have put the teeth whitening task off to 2018.

I must say, I was really impressed with their teeth whitening kit/process. At first I was intimidated, since I had to take an imprint of my teeth and send it in for them to make a mold of, but it was way easier and less messy than I anticipated. And the shipping and turnaround time was really, really fast – making it possible to get started right away. After trying out Smile Brilliant’s whitening kit, I realize that being able to put the teeth whitening gel in a mold that perfectly fit my teeth/mouth made the experience really comfortable and ensured that the gel actually made it on my teeth and didn’t slide around.

Smile Brilliant Teeth Whitening

I used the teeth whitening gel every day (or maybe every third day…) for a few weeks, and noticed impressive results after a few weeks. Of course, I would have gotten quicker results if I had done the teeth whitening daily, but they say not to drink wine or tea for 12 hours after using, and some nights I really needed wine, so I just didn’t whiten those nights.

Would it be easier to abstain entirely from tea/coffee/wine and keep my teeth pearly white? Yes. Is that going to happen? No.

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This post was sponsored by Smile Brilliant, but all opinions are, of course, my own! 

Did you accomplish some of your 2017 resolutions?!


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