100% extrovert, right here!

I was talking with friends the other day about friendship in general – specifically, introverts and extroverts.

I am an extrovert. Like, an off-the-charts extrovert. I actually have a hard time relating to introverts, even though a lot of my very best friends are quite introverted. (They’re social introverts, but almost all of my best friends define themselves as introverts.) Opposites attract… I guess?

Are you an extrovert or introvert?

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One of my friends defined herself as an extreme introvert, and mentioned that she can only have a certain number of good friends before she begins to feel overwhelmed. This is an outgoing, social person, so I found this whole concept super intriguing!

I, on the other hand, feel like I could never have too many friends. I mean sure, it’s impossible to be a “good” friend to a bijillion people, but I love trying! I genuinely enjoy meeting people, getting to know them, forming connections, having great conversation with people alike and different from me… the whole thing. I almost never feel overwhelmed by too many people and too many relationships.

This conversation made me wonder… do other people have ‘limits’ on how many friendships they feel comfortable investing in? Does it make a person less of a good friend to people because when they have many friendships they invest in, rather than only a few? Do introverts and extroverts tend to attract each other because of the balance in energies, or are most extroverts friends with extroverts and vice versa?

Help me out with these questions, people, I would love your insights!

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3 Responses to 100% extrovert, right here!

  1. I think the introvert/extrovert discussion is super interesting, too. I lean very, very introvert. My husband is right on the line.
    Personally, I have two best friends (who aren’t close with one another) and then maybe 2 other close friends. I have friends outside of those 4 people that I invite to parties or hang out with when the moment arises, but I really only invest consistent time and energy into four people tops (plus the husband and family members). And I 100% need time to myself. I prefer to only load up one weekend day with activity and then spend the rest of it alone or decompressing. Obviously things don’t always work out that way, but my mood gets EXTREMELY sour when we have busy weekend on top of busy weekend…

  2. super interesting on the conversation about ‘friend limits!’ since we moved back to CO, i am feeling a lack of mom friends so i keep talking to my husband about us finding parent friends. his response is along the lines of ‘eh. i have enough friends and not enough time to invest in new ones!”

    i get what he’s saying because he travels a ton and his time is limited. we do have GREAT friends back in portland but to me – i need some in person hang time! it’s also weird because he’s the extrovert and i’m the introvert. who knoooows.

    ps. i ADORE these photos!

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