There isn’t a lot of TV being watched in our house right now, but one show that Tim and I enjoy watching is Amazing Race. I love seeing all of the different places, and I love watching the couples interact with each other. There’s nothing like some trashy reality TV to teach me a few things about relationships, right?! This season is especially interesting because half the teams are comprised of couples who met the moment they were placed on a team with the other person. Suffice it to say, there is definitely a lot of relationship drama going on this season and it made me think about a few things…
I Learned Reinforced by the Amazing Race:
| Forgive mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes, and it’s best to get over any idea of perfectionism and realize that both you and your partner are going to make mistakes at some point. Dwelling on past mistakes can only serve to build resentment, and is not a productive use of time and energy.
| Support each other. At different points in time, someone might be the weaker link in the relationship ‘team’, and it’s important to support one another in that time. We all have different God-given skills and talents, and it’s important that we use these skills to build one another up, especially if it’s in an area that our signficant other is weaker in.
| Be respectful. At different points while we’re watching the show, Tim and I will wonder aloud whether a contestant realizes how awful they are acting. But, if we’re being honest, I’m sure we all have moments in our relationship that we would be mortified by if it was made public. Ideally, we should all respect each other in private as we do in public. This means no name calling, no eye rolling, no mean sarcastic/snarky comments. I fail at this more than I care to admit, but when I see other people (on TV) do this, it makes me realize how ugly the behavior truly is.
| Communicate, communicate, communicate! Unfortunately, people can’t read minds, so we need to tell our loved one what we want and need and are feeling. It’s also important to communicate things we’re doing and thinking about, so that both parties are on the same page. I often find that misunderstandings Tim and I have could be easily avoided if one (or both) of us had communicated a bit better.
| Apologize. A lot of healing can begin when a genuine apology is given. Even if the other person seems to be over-reacting, if you think you did something wrong, it’s best to apologize so you can move forward as a couple.
| Don’t be afraid to try new things and embrace the unknown. A lot of fun can be had by experiencing somethng new together! This might mean traveling, trying new food, going on an adventure, eating new foods, learning a new skill, etc!
| Remember that you’re on the same team. High stress (like trying to win a million dollars!) can bring out the ugly in people. Unfortunately, sometimes it isn’t possible to avoid high stress situations, but it is important to remember that you and your spouse are on the same team and can handle adversity better together. It’s easy to take out a bad day on the other person, but that’s never a productive way to deal with an already rough situation. Even though it might be difficult, it’s best to treat each other well even in the midst of of a not-so-stellar mood.
Do you watch The Amazing Race? Do you watch a TV show that makes you really think about your own relationship?
I don’t watch that show but this post and the concept of the Amazing race reminds me of a new show on DIY channel about couples on the rocks being sent into the wild to work together and decide if they want to stay together or call it quits and I totally get the concept. When times are tough and you have to work as a team what happens says a lot about your relationship.
Oh gosh, I don’t think Tim and I would excel in that environment, ESPECIALLY if we were already having issues! Have you watched it?! Is it good?!
No, I haven’t watched it. It looks interesting and I kind of want to but I can’t add anymore shows to my tv watching line up.
I haven’t watched it but those are some great lessons- I can’t even choose, they are all important things for a relationship.
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I love that show. We had friends on it last season and hearing their stories was awesome. I think it’s the only reality show that I would want to do. The prizes they win on each leg and soooo cool.
NO WAY! Which couple do you know?!
It was Keith & Whitney. They were on Survivor too 🙂 It’s fun watching people you know on TV.
This is a really great post. The Amazing Race is full of life lessons!
Thanks! This may be my way of justifying my reality TV viewing… 😉
this was cute! a perk of reality tv – who knew 😛
but i agree – especially with communication! My GOODNESS so many petty arguments have been over just not being clear with each other.
I like your “Don’t be afraid to try new things and embrace the unknown” – this is definitely something I will take and run with. We are a bit stuck in the same/same at the moment and need something to do ‘together’ thats new and out of our routines!
YES! Tim and I go on a date night every week and we try something new – whether it be a new restaurant or a different activity together. Last night we took a cooking class!
I love the Amazing Race! Watching couples is one of my favorite parts!
I not-so-secretly love watching some of the couples fight, but I totally cringe watching some of their interactions, knowing I’d be the same way!